My Life as a Band Wife

On Friday I read some really nasty comments about this blog and myself. It hit me at a personally vulnerable time and I had considered discontinuing My Life as a Band Wife.

When I started writing this and opening myself up, I knew I would get criticism for the fact that keeping this kind of blog makes it look like I want people to care about me because of who my husband is, or that I have no identity outside of my husband.

I sat for a couple of hours, really thinking it out, going through old posts and comments. Then, one of you, took the time to leave a message that really inspired me.

While you’re no longer a band girlfriend, you promised not to stop reading. Because this blog helped you out or cheered you up when times were tough.

It reminded me why I started this in the first place, when I needed it most.

This blog is meant to air a side of my life that is difficult as much as it is joyous. It’s meant to give other band significant others a platform to share their stories (and I wish more of you would) or find solace in the fact that they’re not alone.

If you’re interested in other aspects of who I am, please read my posts on Inklings, follow me on Twitter, or, though I rarely update it (and may more now) check out my other Tumblr account.

I realize there will still be people out there who will have other thoughts and opinions about why I do this — that’s fine. It’s really none of my business.

This morning over coffee I was talking with my husband and our friend about the value of social networking. They’re both self-employed and generally don’t understand how to use it to foster new relationships and business prospects.

I hear this a lot, even from friends who do publicity for the music industry. Here’s what I say: Approach social media the way you would a cocktail party or networking event.

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I had once been anonymously criticized for identifying myself by my husband’s career, despite the posts about my own life, activities, and accomplishments. Today I want to share a pretty great accomplishment with you.

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