ML:BW

22
Jun

Pre-Euro Tour Blues

Alas, I am, yet again, days away from not seeing my husband for approximately one month. It’s hitting me in a different and difficult way today, compared to other tours.

The blues don’t usually set in until after Jay has left, when I come home from work to find the little dog sitting alone on the couch with weepy eyes and all Jay’s tour bags gone from the house.

This time around, the blues thought they would visit me early, leaving me on the verge of tears all day. I admit, I feel silly, but I also understand where it is coming from.

From the minute he returned from the Touche tour, Jay has been busy day and night with the studio and work. I’ve barely had the chance to see him, it seems. I may have mentioned before, the week leading up to tour is always busy with extra projects and tying up loose ends. That husband of mine is a hard worker and a hell of a provider.

Plus, the night before they leave, there is band practice and we don’t exactly get that last night to ourselves.

Wah wah wah, I know, shut up. I will now. But I know I am not the only band wife - or girlfriend - who goes through this, so I thought it was worth a share. The takeaway here is that I am proud of and love my husband and I am going to miss him to death.

What do you do to chase away the pre-tour blues?

11
Dec

Adventures on the road to homeownership

I am so glad this week is over. Although, I do wish the weekend were one day longer this time around. Who doesn’t, right?

It’s been a very busy week at work putting together a presentation for a really cool client. We went into NYC to present and catch up on what’s new, among other things. I was telling my boss and colleague at a dinner party on Friday that I’d love to share my work adventures with all of you, but so much of it is confidential. Currently, the best I can do is share my freelance work for Watertown Patch with all of you.

Anywho, yesterday was home inspection day. What you see above is Niles enjoying the sun in, what will be, his (and our) new home. He had previously been sitting on the rug where the Defeater hoodie is. He likes to snuggle in and sits there, looking at me helplessly if he can’t.

It was an incredibly intense thing. First of all, when the hell did I become an adult? Why are these people standing before me, telling me about how the breaker box will have to be replaced, we need gutters, the barn will need a new roof in three years, this is why the mold has grown all over these suitcases near the hookup to the well, and we better get a garage door guy in there because they are misaligned and not safely attached.

What? Who AM I?

Why am I standing here, in this empty house, when my husband is in Europe playing a show where one of my best friend’s lives? Why am I not in the picture they took together to send to me?

Ah, yes, because I am a an adult, a woman, with a career that I love, a dog, bills to pay, and this house that I am trying to buy. With my husband.

2011 sure has been a whacky, wirlwind of a year.

All the stress of the last week and half has lead to stomach problems and excrutiating joint pain. I stayed in bed yesterday after the home inspection to recover and found myself wishing that Jay was here to go through all of these things with me, and like the GIF I reblogged yesterday, jealous that I wasn’t able to hang out with the boys and my wonderful Miss Sophie.

Today is our 3 month wedding anniversary and my sister Caroline’s 10th birthday. I have a massage at 3 pm, which I so desperately need, and a lot of tasks on my todo list to check off before then.

I’m looking forward to Desperate Housewives tonight — seriously, is it time for Tom and Lynette to get back together yet? This is getting ridiculous.

Laura ♥

P.S. I signed up for Path. I haven’t used it much, but I also have approximately two friends on it. Join me? Laura Paine Maas.

28
Oct

We are mid-way through the Bane/Defeater tour. Mid-way.

At this point, it is usually about a week before Jay is home. But no, not this time around. This time it is two and a half weeks until he is home. That is, until he is home for 10 days before he goes of to Europe for 10 days with Every Time I Die and a few other off-shoot shows (one with Saves the Day. Stop laughing. I’m serious).

This is also the point where I am beyond ready for him to be home, I get a little sad, and I want to kill the three band dudes in the back of the van yelling things like, “I’m married and I’m on the phone,” when we’re talking after I get out of work. Yes, dudes, he IS married and he DOES like to talk to his wife.

Did I mention this is the point in the tour when he, too, is done and is ready to come home?

Anyway, similar to Alyssa D.’s text Tuesday posts, Jase sent me a really sweet text on Thursday. In the first photo above, from left to right, is the photo he sent me with, “I miss you.” He proceeded to ask me if I remember what the building is.

Of course I did! Picture number two shows the two of us with a little piano prodigy at a live NPR concert in Santa Barbara. It was the first trip we took together and the first time I ever met his mom. She made us take the photo with the little piano girl, who Jay later tagged in the photo as one of my best friends, Jenna “I love bacon” Burpee.

Any way, in typical Friday night fashion, I’ve been drinking a delicious red wine, courtesy of Paul and (as seen in the third photo) editing the novel I started almost one year ago for National Novel Writing Month. And of course, a lengthy phone date with the love of my life. I thought the mid-tour point would be a good time to highlight some of the things I’ve done since my husband abandoned me for the road.

  • I’ve cooked several delicious meals 
  • I finally met my Scottish other half, Sophie
  • I wrote my first Inklings blog post
  • I got to spend an unexpected day + with my husband
  • I am half-way through a book that is changing my view of marriage
  • I’ve posted two poems on an account elsewhere. I’m not sure I’m ready to share with all of you yet, as some are people I know in real life
  • I cleaned my house and am nearly finished my thank you notes
  • I am _ (this) close to having my second guest blog post, from a woman who I get closer to by the day — it’s a pretty awesome thing

So, I’ve been busy — and that list doesn’t even incorporate the projects I have been chipping away at while at work. Tomorrow is Marissa’s annual Halloween party, and I have baked a cake for the occasion. I’ll frost tomorrow and see how it goes. If it’s good, there will be a photo. If not, it won’t see the light of day.

Time to curl up in bed with my dog. Goodnight, all. Have a safe and happy weekend.

Laura ♥

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